Leadership and Anxiety in the Church


We live in an age of increased anxiety, which impacts church systems and leaders. Family systems theory offers a way of understanding congregational dynamics and anxiety. This seminar looks at the challenge presented by the rising levels of anxiety being experienced in churches today, as well as the role that self-differentiated leadership can play in calming such anxiety. This workshop will help you…

  • Distinguish between acute anxiety and chronic anxiety
  • Examine the roots of anxiety
  • Compare the family projection process as understood in Bowen family systems theory, with René Girard’s understanding of scapegoating
  • Gain insight into how the scapegoating process impacts church conflict
  • Understand emotional triangles and the importance of maintaining non-anxious presence
  • Recognize the role of playfulness in defusing anxiety
  • See self-differentiated leadership as a key to overcoming the impact of anxiety
  • Enhance your role as a leader in the church

Additional Information

Since the publication of Dr. Edwin Friedman’s Generation to Generation, many pastors and other church leaders have become aware of Bowen family systems theory as a way of understanding congregational dynamics. Family systems theory identifies differentiation of self and anxiety as two key variables impacting human functioning.

The seminar is comprised of a series of PowerPoint presentations originally conceived for LMPC’s Advanced Clergy Clinic in Family Emotional Process. Works of art from the Medieval, Renaissance, and Baroque eras are integrated at various points to facilitate theological reflection on the themes being presented.

The full seminar would be appropriate for a continuing education event for clergy or a pastor-lay leader training event. Groups interested in exploring the possibility of hosting this event can contact the Lombard Mennonite Peace Center at 630-627-0507.

Any of the topics listed to the right can also stand alone as a plenary address for a larger gathering. “The Road to Damascus” would be particularly appropriate for a judicatory or denominational assembly, since it can be adapted to appeal to audiences that include clergy and lay leaders.


The facilitator for the seminar would be Rev. Richard Blackburn, LMPC Executive Director. He has led hundreds of workshops on conflict transformation and mediation skills, and serves as a mediator and consultant for individuals, churches, and other organizations. He participated in Dr. Edwin Friedman’s Post Graduate Clergy Seminar in Family Emotional Process and the Georgetown Family Center’s Post Graduate Program in Family Systems Theory and Its Applications.

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The outline for a one day seminar would be:

  • 9:00-10:15 – The Road to Damascus: The Church and Change in an Age of Anxiety
    • Anxiety in Action: A Congregational Case Study
    • Linear Cause-Effect Thinking vs. Systems Thinking
    • Distinguishing Between Acute Anxiety and Chronic Anxiety
    • Understanding the Roots of Anxiety
    • Societal Anxiety: Its Impact on the Church
  • 10:15-10:30 – Break
  • 10:30-12:00 – “They Know Not What They Do”: The Scapegoat Mechanism and Church Conflict
    • The Scapegoating Process in Church Systems: Case Studies
    • The Family Projection Process in Bowen Theory
    • The Scapegoat Mechanism in the Work of René Girard
    • A Girardian Perspective on Church Conflict
    • Reflections on Christ’s Passion in Art: Exposing the Scapegoat Mechanism to the Light
  • 12:00-1:00 – Lunch
  • 1:00-2:30 – The Importance of Not Being Earnest: Reversals, Playfulness, and Paradox
    • Understanding Triangles and the Importance of Maintaining Non-Anxious Presence
    • Murray Bowen and Edwin Friedman on Reversals, Playfulness, and Paradox: Video Clips of the Masters at Work
  • 2:30-2:45 – Break
  • 2:45-4:00 – The Road to Damascus: Lessons for Leadership in Anxious Times
    • The Conversion of Paul in Art: Learning from Paul’s Experience with Radical Change
    • Self-Differentiated Leadership: A Key to Overcoming the Impact of Anxiety